This is something many parents aren’t aware of—until they are. It takes serious and constant observation of how we navigate parenting, what we believe to be the “right” approach, and how kind we are to ourselves in the process.
In moments of reflection, especially after challenging encounters with children, it’s worth asking: Was it worth getting angry? Did the child really do something wrong? Or did I react out of my own feelings of inadequacy as a parent?
Society constantly feeds us—both directly and indirectly—ideas about how to raise children and what’s considered acceptable.
Parents and children at the swimming pool
Take something as simple as swimming lessons. Some children naturally resist activities like swimming, disliking water splashing on their faces or struggling with bath time. In these moments, parents often feel pressured to push their children, especially when peers of the same age are thriving in that activity. It’s easy to feel anxious or overwhelmed, wondering, Am I doing what I’m supposed to do?
It’s common to witness tense moments at swimming pools—parents pushing reluctant children into lessons, despite tears and resistance, all under the weight of societal expectations. But the real question is: Is this about the child’s readiness and comfort, or is it about fulfilling what society expects of me as a parent?
When we step back and reflect, it becomes clear that parenting isn’t about ticking boxes or meeting external standards. It’s about tuning in to the child’s pace and trusting that when they’re ready, they’ll thrive—often leading to more joyful and meaningful experiences.
Every child is unique and deserves the best version of us. By questioning our reactions and letting go of external pressures, parenting can transform into one of life’s most rewarding and fulfilling journeys.
And yes, even the most hesitant swimmers eventually dive in—when they’re ready. 🙂
Asma J.